I shared in confidence with two people lately that I felt stuck. I have not been experiencing the success I desire in several areas of my life and I know the common denominator is ME. While I was aware that something in my thinking, beliefs or emotions was off, I had a blind spot as to what I needed to do to make a change.
My mentor, Cindy, has been working with me for some time. She offered to share her reflections. Gulp! OK, I guess I want to know… She shared that from her perspective I respond to life, probably because of past relationships, as though I am a victim. It’s as if I see life happening to me, rather than me happening to life. While I am trying to take steps forward, I feel thwarted when I reach an obstacle. I am inclined to view it as just that, an obstacle, a struggle, a “poor me, why does this happen to me?” situation.
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I also spoke with Trudy, a woman who is a life coach and business mentor. We spent just an hour together, but her words and insights were life changing. One of the things she challenged me to consider is the kind of questions I am asking myself. She shared that the brain responds to questions by trying to find the answers and create continuity. If I am asking, “Why do bad things always happen to me?”, then my brain will seek out bad things, or view situations as bad, so as to accurately answer my question. This creates a negative outlook and attitude.
By changing the questions, I can encourage my brain to seek out the positive, help me reach my goals and create beliefs and emotions that are expectant and hopeful.
- Why is eating healthy so easy for me?
- Why is exercise so enjoyable?
- Why is getting up early in the morning such a delight?
- Why is it so easy for me to be on time to appointments?
- Why do I make friends so easily?
- Why do I find it effortless to talk to strangers?
- Why am I so comfortable speaking in front of a group?
- Why are follow up phone calls so enjoyable for me?
- Why does money seem to just find me?
- Why are people flocking to join me in my Young Living business?
- Why am I so blessed to get to do what I love?
- Why do I love life so much?
Asking these questions, even in the face of fear or discomfort, has helped to redefine my perspective and allowed me to see each difficult situation as only temporary and an opportunity to learn and grow. I feel more positive, confident, and encouraged to face the challenge with creativity and perseverance. The results have been remarkable.
Life is full of challenges, but it is how we respond to these challenges that makes all the difference. As St. Paul exhorts us, "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind."