Balancing work, immediate family, extended family, friends, community, church, financial worries, relaxation and household chores, can be exhausting and frustrating. We can feel like a failure because we are rarely satisfied with our performance in all areas or we lack realistic goals and action steps by which to gauge our progress.
Life is like the wheel of a bicycle, with many spokes or factors that contribute to success and overall fulfillment. If one of the key areas of my life is "flat" or bent out of shape, my wheel will not roll very well. If more than one area is warped or lacking then I may have to give up on building any momentum or reaching my desired destination.
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Having taken the Oolawheel quiz to get my free Oolascore and determined my weak areas, I've been focusing on my biggest "flats", Fun and Finance. I have to make a conscious effort to schedule fun outings, like a movie or game night with friends, so I don't get isolated. Living alone and working from home, I can get consumed by work. Adding fun helps me stay balanced.
In the area of finances, I have often criticized myself for being so ignorant of financial terms and practices, and have felt panic when it came to creating and sticking with a budget. Recently, I decided to review my Financial Peace University class notes and Dave Ramsey's audio CDs from this program. I knew I wanted this area of my life to improve, so I committed to learning to budget.
Now that I have been budgeting for a short while, the process seems less overwhelming. I am gaining confidence, learning new skills and believing that my financial success is a blessing from God.
One OolaBlocker that is evident in my life is Self-Sabotage. How many times have I found myself on the brink of a success and suddenly I am overwhelmed with fear, apathy, or irritation and I am tempted to quit, walk away or "wait for a better time" and delay. According to the Oola guys, the negative self-talk which I believed to be a thing of the past, can come back with a vengeance seeking to be heard. Often our response, be it subconscious, is to believe that we are just not worthy of success. We don't deserve to see our dreams come true. We aren't good enough to experience an Oola awesome life.
Of course, this is really not true, and one of the OolaAccelerators that helps me to unblock this negative influence is gratitude. I have written many blogs on gratitude (here, here, and here), because it has been so powerful for me. When I am struggling with negative thoughts or emotions, when I am sliding down the slippery slope of self-pity, or when I feel offended by what might appear to me as unjust treatment, I simply need to pause and begin a litany of thanksgiving.
If you are looking for a good book to challenge you to seek a more balanced life, then I recommend Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World. Enjoy your Oola journey.