That being said, Christmas is also a difficult time for me, a somewhat lonely time with my children grown and scattered and no one to share the day to day joys of shopping and decorating, attending parties and celebrations. At times I feel very lonely, adrift in a new state with many acquaintances but no fast friends. I understand this is a season in my life, but at times I can feel overwhelmed by the feelings of sadness and loss. I am sure I am not alone in feeling this way. For those who have experienced a death, a divorce, or whose children are grown and living at a distance, the experience and emotions may be very similar.
For those haunted by the spirit of Christmas past with painful memories of Christmas neglect or abuse, this can be a time when the hurts of the past surface and disappointments rip scabs off old scars. It can be a time of unmet expectations, painful memories and sadness.